Tips for Healing Your Broken Heart

By Denise Humphrey, Ph.D., www.DeniseHumphrey.com

The pain of ending a relationship, whether you want it to end or not, can sometimes feel so overwhelming you think you may never recover. I am here to tell you that you will. You will recover, and your life will go on. And, you may even find that you are better for having had the experience — stronger, wiser and more sure than ever what you do and do not want in a relationship. The greatest healer of the heart is time, but there are a few things you can do to hurry the healing time along.

Tips for Healing Your Broken Heart

1. Make a clean break. Once it has been determined that the relationship is over, allow it to be over. The person who was once a source of comfort for you can no longer play this role. Force yourself to release this person from every aspect of your life. If you have children together or must communicate for job related purposes, keep your conversations strictly on topic.
2. Grieve. Honor your need to grieve this relationship. You are experiencing the death of something that was once been dear to you. Cry, scream and wail. Let the emotions of grief come to the surface and be released. Allow yourself to be in the rhythm of your emotions. By allowing these emotions to surface and release, you free yourself of them. One day you will wake up and no longer feel the sadness.
3. Let your friends love you. It can be really difficult to reach out to your friends during a break up. Many times we do not want people to see us at our lowest, and we do not like to air our dirty laundry. But your good friends love you, and they will be there to help you pick up the pieces and reassemble your life. Allow them to do that … you would do it from them.
4. Love on yourself. Spoil yourself. Indulge yourself. Pamper yourself. Do whatever it is you do that makes you feel special and beautiful. Get your hair cut and colored. Get a massage. Go to the movies. Buy new clothes. Whatever it is that makes you feel special, go do it.
5. Consult with a therapist. Failed relationships are sometimes the result of life circumstances simply not being mutually compatible between two people. However, many times they are the result of deeper, personal issues that are at play in your life. Working through these issues with a therapist can help you to grow emotionally and live a more satisfying and rewarding life — without or without a significant other.

Denise Humphrey, Ph.D.
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CREDENTIALS
•    Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology:  Fielding Graduate University
•    Master of Music in Piano Performance:  University of Notre Dame
•    Bachelor of Music in Piano Performance:  Southern Methodist University
•    License No. and State: 32345 Texas
•    Board of Trustees, Dallas Foundation for Psychoanalysis
•    Chair, Arts Committee for the Dallas Society for Psychoanalytic Psychology
•    Member, National Register of Health Service Providers in Psychology